Before dinner: Have your child carry heavy items to the table. A
gallon of milk, a stack of plates, a full water pitcher. This kind of heavy work
activates the proprioceptive system and can reduce fidgeting and meltdowns during
the meal. Try it for three evenings in a row and notice if sitting through dinner
gets easier.
After school meltdowns: Set up a "landing pad" routine. When your
child walks in the door, give them five minutes of deep pressure input: a tight hug,
wrapping in a heavy blanket, or pressing couch cushions on top of them (with their
permission). This helps the nervous system shift from "holding it together" mode to
"I'm safe at home" mode. If your child seeks this out on their own, that's a sign
the input is helping.